An Open Letter to Anyone Trying to Make ‘it’ Happen
Posted on 23 October 2018
I know you.
I know those thoughts that go through your head everyday, even the ones you don’t admit out loud, and even the ones you don’t want to admit to yourself.
You barely sleep because you need to optimize the 24 hours you’ve been given every day to make things happen and sleep is for the weak and unmotivated right?
Your life is constantly moving at a mile-a-minute and every time you check one thing off the to-do list, you add on three more. Busy is the new black after all.
You are constantly telling yourself and everyone else around you that you’re going to make things happen in the world, that great things are coming.
But the door closes on the world for a brief moment before you catch the minimal amounts of sleep you allow yourself and the shiny façade cracks, or maybe even crumbles, and every doubt about yourself or your ideas comes crashing down on you. You’ve got 15 minutes to be pummeled by the emotional wave and recover before it completely overtakes you.
So maybe every piece of this doesn’t apply to you but, if we are being honest with one another (which I promised we would be), this is a pretty solid description of what goes through my head on a daily basis, and if you were honest with yourself, it probably applies a little bit to you too.
For as long as I can remember I’ve been trying to out pace and out shine the expectations I felt were placed on me as an 18, 19, 20 etc. year old. I’ve wanted to make something and be something ‘big’ in the world. And, frankly, I still do. I don’t know exactly what that it is, and I’m still willing to push to figure it out.
The reason I’m writing this is because I have to believe that I’m not the only one feeling “some type of way,” but maybe just one of the few people being honest and open about it. I know how it feels to want everything this world has to offer you, to feel like you’ve been fighting for it but it keeps ending up being thrown in your face. To try and battle balancing family, friends, self, and dreams while at the same time quieting the voice inside your head that is always telling you that you can’t do it all, that you aren’t good enough, smart enough, or whatever enough to reach your goals.
It’s all f#*&ing hard. Everyday.
But don’t you even dare think about giving up on yourself. Don’t even let the idea cross your mind (even though I know it will).
The only person that can ever stop you from doing everything you’ve set out to do is you. I know what you’re thinking, “did he really just drop the cheesiest line of all time on us?” Damn straight I did. It’s the truth. Doubt and fear and regret and any feeling of negativity is only temporary. There is always another day, another sunrise, another sunset, and there is always more in you, even when you think there isn’t.
So let’s make a deal here an now about how things are going to go from here on out.
- We’re going to be honest about both the days when the light feels like its shining right on you, as well as the days when the waves come crashing down on you (I know, this whole honesty thing is getting old).
- You’re going to remind yourself (and find people to help remind you) that you are way more capable than you could ever imagine.
- You aren’t going to give-up on yourself. You can change ideas, and change paths, but you won’t loose faith in yourself.
And if things really get tough, let’s grab coffee (in-person or virtually) and hash it out because, trust me, I’ve been there before and so have thousands of other people, I promise. So let’s make whatever it is you’re working on a reality and show the world what they didn’t realize they needed, you.
---Until Next Time,